Pushing (back) the Limits
“We learn through running to take what the days gives us, what our body will allow us, and what our will can tolerate.” –John Bingham, Running writer
I have a problem. It is not the kind of problem that can be easily overcome, and it cannot be easily overcome because I kind of like having this problem. The problem is that I sometimes push myself too hard.
Ever wonder why running is addictive, folks? Well there you have it. 🙂
When It’s Hard
Facing Life’s Set-Backs 101
- Fake it ’til you make it: Put on the positive attitude even if it is not there.
- Do not underestimate the power of self-fulfilling prophecies. If you believe something, chances are you will act in accordance with that belief and put in action a series of behaviours that will get you more of what you think of yourself. This is another, deeper spin on “Fake it ’til you make it”.
- You are reaching out and taking action on your life. You are not just sitting back and doing nothing. And that is great! Chances are, something will come out of this effort. Look at it this way: either you get what you want, or you will at least derive some experience and meaning out of your actions. Either way, you grow, you are a different and a better person. That, in and of itself, is worth fighting for.
- Maybe it was not meant to be. Maybe you’re not matched well enough with what you are trying to achieve. Maybe this is fate (or the person, department, employers who rejected you) telling you that there is something better for you out there. Figure this out. The sooner you do it, the better. You can minimize the time wasted on useless tasks/goals, and maximize the time spent on the goals that will actually get you where you need to be in life.
- Big gulp: Maybe you did not put in your best effort. However this is not a negative thought: Think or, better yet, write down all of the things that you could do differently if you had a second chance. Do this even if you did well. Trust me, you can always do better.
- If you have been feeling too stressed out lately, chances are that this is affecting the attitude that you portray to others, despite your best intentions. As a result, others may not respond according to your expectations. Take time to de-stress. Make time for yourself if this is possible. You do not necessarily need to “indulge” in anything (by spending money for example) in order to feel better. Sometimes, veggies and sleep, and a good dose of your-loved-ones can do the trick. Make these a priority.
- Booze helps. Sometimes though, only sometimes. In moderation. 🙂
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Gratitude: Awesome Friends Edition
The Simple Secret to Getting Things Done
If you are drowning in things that need to get done, and are constantly feeling like you do not know where to start, there is a very simple lesson you can learn from people who are really organized:
- It gives you a sudden sense of empowerment: Writing everything down helps you notice that the overwhelming tasks of a moment ago, are no more than simple chores you can complete in an hour or two (or even less!).
- It helps you remember everything (yes, everything) that you need to do. Do not rely on your memory. Write it down. Your memory is more fallible than you think.
- It is the most efficient way of balancing out a busy schedule.
- It helps you visualize the course of your day, giving it structure and meaning.
- It helps you prioritize the things that need to be done now, over any distractions that may pop up during the day.
- It saves you money: you can cut transportation costs so that you do not have to make further trips if you forget an item or two. It can save you money on groceries and other items that you need, by getting them at cheaper locations rather than at convenience stores and more expensive stores, which is where people resort to shopping when they urgently need something.
- It saves you time: Writing out all of the things that you need to do helps you notice tasks that can be combined, to save you energy and time.
Eat Pray Love (Mindfully)
The movie based on the book “Eat Pray Love” is coming out soon. Its message appears to be quite exciting: a woman decides to leave everything in order to travel to foreign places and, in the end, discover who she truly is and what she really wants out of life. These types of narratives about women are missing in our society indeed. So why am I not exactly thrilled about this movie, both as a feminist and as a traveler?
I love traveling. I have traveled by myself to various continents, backpacking the whole way through. The experience was undoubtedly a learning experience which has surely shaped who I am. But what did it really teach me? Exactly who I was and what I wanted out of life?
Not at all.
I knew who I was before I decided to strap on my backpack and prance around the streets of foreign cities solo. I knew that what I wanted the most out of life was to learn about other people, about other cultures, and to open my eyes to the ways in which the world outside of the claustrophobic restrictions of my society, and its cultural tunnel-vision, functioned.
So what did traveling actually teach me?
- It taught me to trust in my own intelligence and common sense.
- It taught me to appreciate others.
- It taught me that the people of the so-called “Third World” are indeed human beings, and for the first time it allowed me to see them with the deepest sense of understanding of our shared and equal humanity.
- It taught me that our conceptions of dangerous foreign lands are an only fabrications formed by our ignorance towards all that is unknown. In reality, nothing is as dangerous and fearful as we conceive it to be. With enough exposure you can really adapt to anything and learn to appreciate everything.
- It taught me a lot of the mundane lessons that come with living an unusual lifestyle of waking up in a different city every other day and meeting new people practically every day. Being a traveler, without even blending in with the culture, can make you different because it is a different lived experience.
This is why I happen to find “Eat Pray Love” shallow and offensive. It constructs people living in the developing world as “backwards” and “exotic”, individuals whose only function is to provide spiritual guidance to a woman that has been messed up by too much modernity and thus too much civilization. Foreigners are depicted in prejudiced in orientalist ways, making the movie a bit hard to digest for a true traveler who knows how to Eat, Pray, and Love.
So eat well, pray to be a better person and love everyone. But when you travel, please consider yourself just as important as the people in whose country you are staying. After all, they have been as kind as to let you in with limited restrictions, if none at all. Imagine how hard it is for them to come to your country, and to have the privilege they allow you to have in experiencing their culture.